Relationships are tough. I think the majority of people can attest to that. I also believe that the beginning of a relationship is also one of the toughest times. You try to figure each other out during this time and you get a lot of outside noise. The people around you are intrigued because a new relationship is exciting. At the same time you don’t want to let other noise affect how you feel about the person you are dating. For this reason Nancy and I did our best to try and keep a low profile. We didn’t rush to meet each other’s friends or family nor did we really discuss our relationship with anyone. I think that by doing this it allowed us to show more of ourselves to each other. I believe that the reason why we have such an incredible relationship now is because we focused solely on each other and kept any disagreements in house. We’ve been dating for over a year now and I think we’ve only had maybe 1 or 2 serious arguments and I can’t even recall what they were about. Our relationship has never been in jeopardy and this is the happiest I’ve ever been. With that being said we both decided to start a blog about our lifestyles and actually share a little more about us and how tick.
So where do I begin to speak on this roller coaster I’ve been on? I’m obviously kidding, stop making faces at me Nancy. Well we met at work but we didn’t really speak to each other for a good year. Our company at the time created a new department and hired a lot of new people. I was one of the first to be hired followed by her a couple months later. I wish I could sit here and say it was love at first sight but in reality at the time I wasn’t looking to get involved with anyone from work (sorry girl). I wanted to keep my personal life separate from my work life. We also sat on different floors of the company so I almost never saw her.
It wasn’t until our department got combined into one floor where I began to see her more and more. At first she seemed like a goof ball and she was also really shy around me. She would come by my cubicle and talk to one of the girls that sat next to me but she would ignore me so I was really naïve and unaware of anything going on. She was also a bit rude to me anytime I talked to her. I guess she was using the elementary school tactic.
She finally caught my attention for good one day when our department had a game day and we played charades. I was fiercely competitive and I was leading my team to victory when she stepped up for her team and edged mine out for a victory. That’s the day that everything changed. For some reason I was really drawn to her. She became my work crush without me even knowing it just yet.
After the charades game our department went through another change and we sat on different floors again. This time though for whatever reason I just wanted to run into her somehow. I called upon my inner stalker and started parking in the same area as her in the parking lot hoping to run into her. Thank god we are dating now otherwise how terrible was that look for me? I would also make excuses to go to her floor for fake business reasons. I didn’t have a plan as to what to say or how anything would develop, I just wanted to see her. I finally caught a break when she e-mailed me for something work related and I replied with jokes. From then on we started trading e-mails and so the pre-relationship roller coaster began.
I will continue with the story in my next blog post so that Nancy can have a chance to tell her side of the story up to this point.
Okay. Okay. OKAY. First of all, “I wanted to keep my personal life separate from my work life.”?! As if! If my memory serves me right, which it does, I was the one that kept rejecting Octavio because I didn’t want to mix the two together. He asked me to have lunch with him twice and I said, “mmmm no”. However unlike him it was love at first sight for me, but by the time he was asking me to have lunch with him he no longer caught my interest. He did still make me very nervous though so when he would randomly appear at my desk I’d be freaking out thinking, “CRAP I didn’t wash my hair” or “OH MY GOSH, do I smell?!” because he would always come at the end of the day.
I’m going to end this post on a serious note and this is where the gentlemen need to pay close attention so listen up or continue to suffer. A main reason for our happy and successful relationship is due to the fact that Octavio has a friendly monthly alarm to remind him when it’s ‘that time of the month’, which he has named Matilda Time. For seven days everything I say or do is right. During these seven days the only words that come out of his mouth are, “okay babe; yes, my love; whatever you want; etc.” On one of our last arguments I wasn’t making any sense and frustrating him. The next morning his Matilda alarm went off and it all began to make sense to him. I received a call from him apologizing and saying he should have known better. So gentlemen during Matilda time we are ALWAYS RIGHT.